Excuses Excuses

Saying "don't talk about me behind my back about it is just trying to avoid responsibility for your actions. Not talking about people behind their backs applies to idle gossip. It doesn't pertain to talking about the person's improper behavior.The people who behave badly, treat others badly & then insist no one is ever to "talk about me behind my back" are trying to control society's perceptions of them so they can continue to behave like an ass &  hide it. If a person doesn't want their behavior talked about  then they should have done whatever it is people are talking about. Women who operate like this come in two types: the ones that aren't beautiful or nice that who think they are hot stuff (typically they are "the bitch and proud of it" type) and beautiful because all their lives men have been lying (subject of a future blog post) to them to have sex with them. They were influenced by the lies to the point that the bullsh** men spewed to get in their pants shaped their entire personality. Then there are the truly physical beautiful ones that from the time they're born, they're told how beautiful & wonderful they are & they grow up thinking that that is all there is to do in life (them). They never learn to take criticism or learn the value of it because they either never got any or it was drowned out by people telling them how perfect they are. Thus they learn that their "appearance is everything". So then, it's not what they do, it is the perception of what they do that counts. Hence, if they can control what other people say about them, then everything is hunky dory for them. The trouble is that these are only extreme categories of this type of behavior. The sad fact is that in my experience, nearly everyone puts appearance above substance, makes excuses and kills the messenger who brings them criticism. I believe this has become "The American Way", indeed, in interacting with people online around the world, I believe it is actually the way of the modern world.